So, I only just recently watched Emma Watson’s speech to the UN about how men and women should join with her in calling themselves feminists, and how this is something that men should be just as active and outspoken as women about. I have heard her speech a few times, and I have actually tried to think this out and word it in a way where I can be respectful, yet still be critical, because I respect Watson. She is probably the only person who can leave the world of acting and go much higher up in it. That’s impressive. However, let’s talk about her speech.
Look, Emma, there’s a key problem that you are unable to overcome in your speech. It’s something that I am sorry to say bogs down your belief in equality between both genders. That is a good way to look at this issue, and I’m with you whole-heartedly, believe it or not. But the reality is that, in the 1st world, this issue has gotten so utterly divisive that you would have to repair a lot of rifts to make your vision work.
For starters, there’s Tumblr and Twitter feminism. Women who are complaining about things that have no bearing on gender equality and are only something that they want to be mad about. You have women like Anita Sarkeesian, going after women in video games like that is indicative of some kind of culture of misogyny. Or that it promotes misogyny. This is the same flawed reasoning that people who say that video games cause violence use, and there has been absolutely ZERO evidence for either position. But to these people, it doesn’t matter. Facts mean nothing. When you can have a woman holding up a sign and saying that she needs feminism because of “stare rape,” then how can you expect other people to believe in it. And I have no doubt that a lot of women are with you on your points. For real, I have no doubt. But the reason that the label of feminism is so tarnished in this country is because of people like the SJWs and their ilk on social media. They don’t want discussion. They want capitulation. They want men to go away, because in their eyes, men are the problem.
I CANNOT judge a group of people by the best of what it has to offer. I’m sorry. I wish I could. I wish I could turn a blind eye to people like Anita Sarkeesian. But the problem is that they are not only getting Internet attention, they are now getting mainstream attention. MSNBC recently did a story where they painted the issues of #GamerGate that myself and other have – ethics and ethical reporting in gaming journalism – and made it like we are just woman-haters who don’t like that women are in video gaming. Those of us who try and talk to women like Sarkeesian logically and without becoming a tirade of expletives are belittled and ignored, because that doesn’t help the message. I did not see a SINGLE person on MSNBC’s broadcast who explained our side. They just had two people who made us out to be villains. This is becoming the mainstream position of the far-left. As a woman who made a video belittling the Tumblrites pointed out – it’s like everyone is in a rush to be the most progressive.
Regardless of whether or not you agree with them, this is the company which you keep. Unless you decry them, publicly and with conviction, it’s no different than moderate Christians who keep quiet when Fundies go off. It’s easier to stand by your sisterhood than to fight against it. That’s something that we can’t abide.
What’s more – women who are empowered enough to speak out against these women are then targeted by them. These people are like a pack of rabid dogs, looking for targets to chow down on. That’s what feminism is becoming in America, because women like you are a very quiet bunch about the outspoken misandry that Tumblr and Twitter feminists espouse. I’m sorry if this sounds rude. I mean no disrespect. But I hope you can see where I’m coming from, here.
And I want to commend you for bringing up the plight of women outside the first world. Here’s something that you and I could stand together on. I would LOVE to see the women of India or Saudi Arabia or places like that would embrace the feminism of the early 1900’s. A suffragette-style movement would do loads of good in those parts of the world. If you were to lead a movement with that ideal in mind, I would be behind you, 100%. So would most men and women, I bet.
But at the end of the day, I cannot and will not call myself a feminist. Nor am I a male-rights activist. Here is what I am – a self-determination gender-egalitarian. A mouthful? Perhaps. It is, however, the closest thing that I can think of to describe how I see gender and the issue that we have. I want all people, men and women, to have the same rights. Man, woman, gay, straight. Equality shouldn’t be a gender thing, it should be a human thing. And I bet you that we could see eye-to-eye, if I were remotely popular enough to ever meet you in person. I do respect you and it was a good speech. However, feminism in the Western World needs help. It needs a lot of help. Because Tumblr and Twitter is making it look astoundingly bad. Do with that whatever you will.
To close out my response, a quote,
“Men are from Earth. Women are from Earth. Deal with it.” -George Carlin