Normally I do this post on the day or day before Thanksgiving, but I gots me an idea for an actual Thanksgiving post this year, and I do have some stuff to talk about with this post, so I figured I’d break tradition a little. It’s been a long year. A lot of things have happened, making my adult life that much more complicated. My Year in Review post will be pretty interesting. But there are a number of things that I want to give thanks for. Despite what corporate America believes, I think that this holiday is about giving thanks for what you have, so let’s get down to it. Here are the thing that I want to give thanks for in 2018.
Getting a New Job
I cannot tell you how hard it has been making just enough to scrape by. With new expenses coming into my life now that I fully own a car of my own, and had some serious shit go wrong with said car (and still have to get my shocks replaced in the spring), along with Uncle Sam fucking me over because I am single and don’t own property (seriously, this world is so rigged against single people. It’s infuriating), my finances took a massive, massive hit. It nearly crippled me. For so long, I was desperate to get a new job, that paid better.
I’ve been fighting against going up the ladder in my own office because for the longest time I didn’t want a caseload of my own. However, since all my efforts to escape have been in vain, I decided it was time to nut up and just do it. I mean, if I’m gonna be stuck here, might as well be earning that sweet cheddar, right? With that in mind, and since every supervisor has been begging me to do this because I am that good at what I do, I finally applied.
The wait was interminable, but I finally got the job! Almost to the point of seeing the first paycheck with partial caseworker cheddar infusion along with my old wages. Not to mention overtime pay, because every time there is overtime, I am on that like stink on cheese. A half day on a Saturday at my office and now I can’t imagine what I will be bringing home. Signed up for more next month. Christmas might come a little later, but I’ll take it. Man did I digress.
Getting this job is a massive bump in pay, and with my plans to go back to college to get my CPC for medical coding for when I leave this state, this pay raise is going to get me so very far. It’s a great thing, trust and believe. I couldn’t be more thankful. If I hadn’t have gotten this job, I honestly was scared of what was going to happen. My finances were in the tank.
This one is almost obligatory. Given how much they have done for me over the years, to not include it on the list would be kinda heresy. I acknowledge that there were some bad years, especially with my mother, but now we have hit a stride where we are more like chill friends than parent and kid, and it works. In my family, it’s all about sticking together. Who else will support you if they won’t? Granted, there are limits, as an extended family member found out after suing me. You don’t do family that way, not in this lot.
While I have been financially independent for two years, even when my finances were in trouble, I didn’t ask for money, they still do a lot for me, and I have to be very vocal of my thankfulness that I have parents who are like that. I have friends who don’t, like a girly-mate whose family disowned her after she was outed as being gay when she was a teenager.
Both my folks are getting older, and the reality is that there comes a point that you have to start looking at the inevitable. I’ve always known that between my sibling and myself, the one who will have to do the heavy lifting looking after them is me. I’m together, moving up in the world, and can manage my own life. Common sense isn’t as common as you’d think. I’m glad for all the time I have with my folks, even if we talk to each other like we’re always bickering. It comes from a place of love.
My Navy Girly-mate
If you had told me the day we met, at the office where we worked together before she shipped off to basic, that I was meeting someone who was going to change my life in so many ways, I don’t know if I would have believed you. Her and I have had our ups and downs. There was even something that happened that nearly nuked our friendship entirely. Took me having to seriously work to set things right. But here we are, two years later, and she’s one of the best friends I’ve ever had.
There is so much about her life in the Navy I could learn about. I have hung on every word when she talks about it. I always wanted to serve myself, but after a head injury that killed me and the back of my head having to be replaced with government plastic, that’s out, along with contact sports and fisticuffs. So I will admit that I am partly living through her experiences as I hear of them, but it’s been something so engaging.
Plus, we get one-another. Our antics together are just the best. We are perfectly on one-another’s wavelengths, I can give her shit and she can give it to me, we just work as a duo. This friendship is new in my life, but so long as there isn’t some kind of major disaster in the future, it could become a defining relationship in my life.
Other Friends, Old and New
There are some new people in my life. New employees who started out in customer service at the agency I work for, just like I did. I’ve become something of a mentor to all of them. There is a reason I can walk into that room like a rock star and have them coming to me regularly for advice. I take some pride in that. These friends are different kinds of people, and some of them mesh with me better than others, but so far it’s proving to be an interesting experience.
Meanwhile, there are some old friends who I have been able to keep in my life who are so important to me. One friend who occasionally comes to dinner. Some people think that men and women can’t be just friends, and she is living proof that that is not true. We are 100% platonic and perfectly fine with that. It’s great to have someone who I can talk to, and who is comfortable talking to me.
Then there is a friend who is very far away, and I miss them every day. The adventures we had, the times we spent together, and our nights together seem like a distant memory now, but we keep in touch and there are some genuinely touching exchanges between the two of us. I wear the bracelet she got me every day.
This website is almost 10 years old. It will be in August of next year. I’ve had this place going for 10 years. That’s just baffling, to me. To think that I’d be some nobody with his own website that people continue to read after 10 years. I have almost 900 subs on WordPress alone, and it grows all the time. That many people have chosen to keep what I write open to their viewing, and some comment regularly. Don’t think for one second that I take that for granted. You all and the reactions I get to my work are what keep me wanting to write on here. Plus, it’s a great outlet.
Going back and looking at my early work, I do cringe a bit. But that’s the great thing about a site – you can grow and evolve. And if more people come and fewer leave, that means you’re doing something right. You’re putting out content that people think is worth their time. Plus, with so many WordPress blogs out there, to be this popular, minuscule as it is, is a real privilege. Thank you all so much.
What about you? What things are you thankful for this year? Let me know in the Comments.
Until next time, a quote,
“I love fall.” – Hobbes, Calvin and Hobbes