I have forgotten how much there is a well of beautiful cringe with Christian videos. I have spent so much time with SJW bullshit that I forgot what it’s like. Naturally, these “pro-life” (anti-woman) Christians are all about waiting for sex. Because in their mind, sex exists only to create babies. Because if a bitch isn’t on her back as a brood mare for the state, what else is she good for? By the way, for any Christians insulted about that statement, your Bible backs me up! Head on over to Skeptic’s Annotated Bible and see all the great quotes that the Bible has about women. It’s really good stuff. And by good, I mean horribly sexist.
Now we have another Christian up to bat to tell us why sex is evil unless there’s a ring on it. Here’s a link to his video, now let’s get down to it. This guy says that his reasons for not having sex before marriage are so good you won’t be able to dispute them because they are so right. This should be interesting.
10. Sex Masks Problems
His argument is basically that if you’re having sex, you won’t notice problems in a relationship. That’s stupid on a whole bunch of levels. For starters, what kind of relationships has this guy been in? If all I’m doing with someone is fighting with them, the sex isn’t gonna stop that. What guys out there are like “I can’t stand this bitch, so let’s have sex!”? None. This is blatantly stupid.
Real relationships are not contingent on sex. I’ve had plenty of relationships where I’ve taken my time. I’ve had friends with benefits where sometimes all we would do is hang out and have dinner or just enjoy each other’s company. The thing that held all of those things together was my liking the person I was spending time with. If you genuinely believe that sex is going to stop you from seeing what’s wrong with you and another person, you’re an idiot. Since that is exactly what happened with you, I guess we know what kind of person you are, don’t we?
He then argues that if you’re not having sex, and you’re really in love, you think “let’s get married!” What?! Um, how about, “let’s see where the relationship goes”? You don’t just go from love to marriage, you fucking idiot. That’s how you end up in TERRIBLE marriages for young love where they were absolutely sure that this is their forever person and won’t hear otherwise, only to discover that this isn’t that person and now they have this messy and complicated divorce ahead of them. Before you say I don’t know what I’m talking about, I was engaged once.
9. Marriage allows you to evaluate your real feelings
WHAT?! (I get the feeling this will be my response a lot) To all the dim-witted teenagers who up-voted this and take this moron seriously, let me tell you something – you damn-well better know before you take that step if you are serious or not. Once you take that step, it is a legally binding contract. It’s too late for cold feet at that point. Taking that step had better come AFTER you “evaluate your real feelings,” because you are making a legal bet of half your shit that you will love them for the rest of your life. If there is any uncertainty with that thought process, you aren’t ready.
Naturally, this idiot uses the Bible to tell us that his point of view is right. Yeah, the Bible also says that I can fuck a slave or rape a woman and pay her father 15 pieces of silver. Just putting that out there. Using the Bible to justify a point of view involving women is always a bad idea. The sexism is rampant in that book.
8. Sex connects us
What the fuck does this have to do with sex before marriage? Yeah, sex can be a powerful connection if there is an emotionally connection between two people. But it isn’t always like that. Sometimes, people really are just looking to get their rocks off. Is that a pretty thought? No, but life isn’t always pretty. Sometimes it’s just ugly in the only way it can be.
He makes the claim that having lots of sex partners increases your risk of divorce. Says there are “lots of studies” about it and tells us to Google it. Okay, let’s play. I did Google a couple things, and here’s what I found out. The common cultural belief that more people are getting divorced isn’t true. In fact, divorce rates have been going down for several years now. One common factor in this is more couples choosing to wait to get married until later in life, or those who choose not to get married at all. As our culture evolves and the role of women in society now that more are having to choose careers due to financial constraints or personal goals, so does the nature of the family and of romantic relationships. This is a messy subject, and this fucking moron doesn’t seem to get that. He compares women who have sex more than once with a piece of duct tape being stuck multiple times. Wow. Sexist, much?
The access to contraception in the western world is higher now than it has ever been. If you are not rubbing two brain cells together, for men and women, you can protect yourself! Or, if something goes wrong, you can get the morning after pill. None of which involves abortion! All of which you can get at Planned Parenthood. There, refuted this point nicely.
6. Everybody else is doing it
What? Why does that matter? Are you appealing to the youth who wanna be rebels or something? Is that what I’m supposed to take away from this? His statement about the rate of divorce currently is bullshit. Read the article I linked above. An expert talks about how the cultural belief of the divorce rate being that high is a complete misconception. It’s a scare tactic that works against teenager who are too stupid to know any better. This in America, after all.
He then says that based on his fictitious amount of divorces, he believes the bulk of them aren’t happy. To quote The Dude, “that’s, like, your opinion, man.” What evidence do you have for this? What studies have shown that the bulk of married couples are unhappy? Please, shared this with me. I love my Comments section open. Unlike Twitter, YouTube, Facebook, iTunes, and SoundCloud, I believe in freedom of speech.
5. What we gain to easily we esteem to lightly
His argument is that if you have sex before marriage, you feel like it was earned too easily and won’t appreciate it. Wow. This really is going to show what kind of man this is. He sees women as lesser if the sex is easy to get. You don’t appreciate it. Well, buddy, I’m glad you don’t appreciate the relationships you have had with women you had sex with outside of marriage, but thankfully, not all of us are sexist assholes like you.
The guy says he’s been abstinent for six years, so when he finally gets to get into those pants after what he admits will be another year of dating, he will really want it! I’m just imagining that this dude will cum after two thrusts and then the woman will have to get herself off. It will be followed with a conversation like “I’m sorry, honey, that doesn’t usually happen to me.”
To the teenagers who take this shit seriously, listen. Being sexually compatible is a part of a relationship. If you think that somebody not being good in bed and being able to please their partner isn’t going to damage a relationship, you’re delusional. And I’m not just talking about skill, either. I’m also talking about what you want in sex vs what they do. If they want you to get in a clown costume and fuck them while squirting seltzer water all over them, are you going to be okay with that? A person’s sexual preferences are many, and part of being compatible as a couple is being able to work with your partner. If they want you to put on a ball get and get fucked up the ass, and you are vehemently opposed, don’t think for a second that that wouldn’t do gradual damage. Unless this guy just thinks that if you are married, you will be able to always work that out. Yeah, good luck with that.
4. Transfer of control
He says that 99% of relationships, the only thing a woman has control over is when they have sex. What is wrong with this sexist douche?! That is such bullshit! The roles in a relationship are something that you decide with your partner! As the relationship progresses, new roles will arise and you’ll have to figure out whose those are. It’s part of good communication. In my late serious relationship, I was the one who always did the cooking when we lived together because my ex was, for all her wonderful qualities, not the best cook. I like to cook, so it was fun to be able to provide for myself and my partner. This man’s view on relationships is so ass-backwards!
Then he makes the argument that she has control of sex and he has control of the relationship. Oh yeah, this dude is a Christian, alright. After all, the Bible does say that the man’s role is to be head of the home. What a sexist asshole. So, if you have sex before marriage, she suddenly gets control of you. If I believed this guy actually understands what a relationship entails, I might have an opinion about this. As it stands, I don’t think he does, so I don’t.
3. Talk is cheap
His argument here is that when men say they love a woman to get sex, they’re lying. The goal is to have women see men as pigs, so they can demand marriage as proof of their commitment. This is insulting to men and women. So, instead of promoting dialogue between partners, he decides to just tell women to take the “if he ain’t gonna put a ring on it, you better not give it to him!”
Talk isn’t cheap, you chauvinistic prick. It’s the cornerstone of ALL healthy relationships. Every single one. You could have made a point that don’t just let him say he loves you and that be it. Promote there being open dialogue. That is, of course, assuming that this woman isn’t just looking to have something that isn’t serious. Why is there no agency given to women in this video? It’s always guys who are the ones pushing and trying to get things. I fucking hate this dude.
2. Physical attraction fades
My parents have been together for over 25 years. I don’t know how far away 30 is, but I don’t think it’s too long. And one thing that my mother told me is that what happens over time is that you aren’t just crazy kids with crazy hormones. Your partner because less about the physical, and more of a friend and companion that you can’t see yourself without. And that isn’t done by waiting for sex until marriage! It is a gradual process of growing in the relationship, It takes years and years of dedication and trust. This fucking moron is trying to reduce that down to “just wait until marriage and it’ll all be okay.” What a fucking idiot!
1. Better to have lifelong friends than short-term sex partners
This whole video has been a stunning look into the mind of this man and how he sees women in his life. How he sees relationships. How he sees women. In his mind, the more a woman has sex, the less she will stick in a relationship. He compares them to tape. Reminds me of my sex ed class back in middle school, where they talked about women being less clean because they chose to have sex. It’s sexist. It demeans women and acts like just because they have had other people that they have gotten physical with, that they are incapable of finding commitment. He makes the analogy that women only have control in a relationship in regards to sex. And worst of all, that instead of sex being one of the things you talk about in a relationship, that it’s the man’s job to be the shepherd for his dumb woman because he is the one who gets to decide how the relationship will work.
I cannot stand this fucking dude. Now he is saying that sex before marriage will make the other person see the relationship as just something they are doing. As some flash-in-the-pan thing. I have learned so much about how this man sees relationships as well.
To people out there, let me give you some ACTUAL useful advice. If you think you’re ready for sex in your relationship, talk to your partner. Good communication is the best thing for a relationship. It cannot survive without it. If you have misgivings and want to wait, that’s fine too. Just make sure you communicate that as well. And for the love of Groj, don’t think of yourself or your sexual history as fucking tape! That analogy is demeaning and insulting to what a sexual connection between two dedicated people can be. Fuck this sexist asshole and his stupid fucking video.
Until next time, a quote,
“I love the way you look at me. Like you are about to talk to me or devour me. I am fine with either.” – N.R. Hart