I just read an article in The Washington Post that was a little shocking. It was about a father who pretended to be his daughter’s online boyfriend, to trick her into sending him naked pictures of her. This guy is a real piece of work. Apparently, the crime is so shocking that the female prosecutor of the case says that she’s never seen anything like it. I have to admit, neither have I. This guy is a real sick fuck. But I do have an unpopular opinion about this story, and I’m going to share it all with you – teens who have their naked pictures spread around are NOT victims.
Let me make myself clear – I am talking about teenagers who send naked pictures to their romantic other. This is boys and girls. Granted, when a nude-y of a boy gets spread around, it’s hilarious. Our culture only goes into outrage mode when it’s a girl. Naturally. After all, girls are fair maidens that must always be protected from the bad people of the world. Let me also make another thing clear – this girl’s dad is a sick fuck. I’m not going to deny that. But the thing that people need to understand is that this girl had a part in this.
If this man had manipulated or coerced her into sex, that would be one thing. He’s an adult, she’s a minor. That’s statutory rape. But this isn’t that. Here is a girl who had all the ability not to take her phone and take naked pictures of herself and send them to this bastard. She could have chosen not to do that. I believe that there is some agency that she had when she chose to do this. Such is the case when any girl or woman takes naked pictures of themselves and sends them. The moment that you make that choice, what happens after that is partly your fault. Sure, guy (or girls. I refuse to believe that gay or bi women are any better) who spread it around are assholes. But can we all just admit that there is something to be said for not shooting pics of yourself with no clothes on and sending them to another person?
As I said, it’s only when it’s a girl that it is disgusting. Do you think the media outrage would have been nearly as much if the genders were reversed? Of course not. The fact is that the media is only treating this like she is the ultimate victim because she’s a girl. Hell, when it’s guys in this situation, most people say that the boy shouldn’t be complaining. Though maybe incest actually could make people care about a boy having their privacy violated. And I do think that this is a violation of privacy. However, I have to point out that it is a violation that they are somewhat complicit in. They allowed it to happen, by sending a naked picture to another person via their phone. Or doing when the idiot celebrities did and posting naked pictures to their Cloud.
So many comments talking about what a sad victim the girl is. The moment anyone brought up that she shouldn’t have sent naked pictures, the shame was heaped on. Because we’re just “victim-blaming,” right? If her dad had touched her in a sexual way? Not a chance. I’d be right with you. When a girl takes the time to take her clothes off, get some pics, and send them to another person, that’s when I can’t help but think that they have no sense and should have known better. If the phrase “don’t feed the trolls” is a thing, maybe we should have another one. How about, “don’t send to jerks”?
I know, I’m a terrible person. Let me know how much you think I am a sick piece of shit in the comments.
Until next time, a quote,
“The search for a scapegoat is the easiest of all hunting expeditions.” – Dwight D. Eisenhower