There is an argument that I’ve heard going around, and in some places have had people arguing that this value should be a law. This argument makes no damn sense, and kind of beats this idea that feminism is a belief structure that stands with women into question. Anyone who holds this belief is, in my opinion, horrifically sexist and believe that they should be allowed to tell women what to do with their own bodies. I am talking, of course, about the belief that any man who has sex with a prostitute is committing rape.
Does that sound like hyperbole? I’d understand if you believed that. For real, I do. That sounds so bat-shit crazy. I mean, how can one possibly claim that the trade of sex for money is rape? Well, according to the bat-shit factory of Puritan Feminism, it is because the fact of sex for money is, somehow, sex without her consent. O-kay…how? How does that work?
I can already hear the argument – women who are forced into prostitution. Okay, fair enough. Not even kidding, no one should be forced to do something that they don’t want to do, so I am totally against prostitution when it is someone who doesn’t have the choice to not do it. Then there is another argument I can see coming – johns can sometimes go too far and have sex with a prostitute in a way that she doesn’t consent to. Or can force himself on her. I won’t argue with this point either. Prostitution is a risky business. Partly because it is illegal. If we were to be legalized, then it could be controlled. It could be put into businesses like one that I have spoken about (linked here). If it were put into a business that could be regulated and have safety standards and security if johns go too far, then that would assuage a lot of the worries that people have about this profession.
So, those two things aside, it comes back to the issue of – how is sex for money rape? Let me put a situation to you – a guy engages the services of a prostitute, has sex with her that is in no way violent, and then pays her the agreed-upon amount at the end of the transaction, how has she been violated? If she knowingly-engaged the services of this man, and all parties involved got exactly what they asked for, then who is in the wrong? I honestly want to know. Anyone who wishes to comment, do so. I don’t keep this place an echo chamber. I have to approve new people, but I always do so, and after that, you have carte blanche to comment on any post on this site.
The strangest thing about modern feminism is that they go so far out of their way to make it seem like women have no agency in their sexual expression. At least not the sex – feminists like Anita Sarkeesian. These people make it sound like sexual expression of any kind, outside of what they deem acceptable, demeans all women and is being brought on by disgusting males. They also like to ignore the fact that lesbian and bisexual women exist, but I’ve talked at length about how two-faced their entire approach to dealing with the LB part of the LGBT community is hypocritical. For those who want the Cliff Notes (is that still a thing?) version – lesbian and bisexual women don’t exist, unless they can be a shield. Does that sexual expression appeal to lesbian or bisexual women? Well, it’s still wrong! Because…MAN! It’s the go-to line for everything. Not to mention saying that if something is intended to appeal to men, then who cares how they feel. Hypocrisy is an art to these people.
The simple reality is – if you are going to argue that women have agency and are empowered, then the idea of prostitution as an acceptable avenue must be acknowledged. Otherwise, you end up looking like the biggest fucking hypocrite, when people point out that there are women who enter the profession as either a means of financial desperation, or a way to get by when things are hard. Same as the porn industry, which these people also rail against. Because all porn is misogynistic, right? Even the kind when the woman has all the power, nope, that’s misogyny. Women wanting sex? That’s unheard of! Get your hijab back on! Oh, I’m sorry, that’s another sex – religion talking. My bad.
Ladies, I don’t shame women because of how you choose to get by. Be it stripping, being a cam girl, being in porn, or having sex for money. We all get by in one way or another. And let’s not forget that there are men who get into the industry as well. Services for straight and gay sex for money is a real thing, involving men. But let’s not muddy up the ideological waters with context. The day that third-wave feminists acknowledge that is the day that I grow wings and fly.
Until next time, a quote,
“If religious people could listen to reason, then there would be no religious people.” – Gregory House, House, M.D.