The Transgender Genital Debate

There was an article recently written where a transgender woman was going after straight guys, and found that they were all immediately turned off by her having male genitals.  And according to her, this is bigoted and makes her a victim.  A victim of a world that just doesn’t accept transgender people.  That’s the line.  I’ve decided that I’m going to weigh in on this, because it needs to be talked about.  The transgender community has been getting its panties in a bunch quite a bit lately, and right now is one of those times when I need to put their complaining in its place.  Because it all boils down to this – if you have a dick, straight guys don’t want you.  Plain and simple.

Is that really so shocking?  For real, does that genuinely shock you.  That men who prefer women and female genitals would be instantly turned off by male ones?  It’s like these people forget that men have sexual preferences.  Perhaps they bought into that article that says that everyone is bisexual.  That’s not true, by the way.  Not everyone is.  Some people aren’t.  It goes for both genders.  There are some women who have ZERO interest in their own gender, and same with some guys.  Same with guy-parts and lady-parts.  Some people just don’t want them.  Sexual preference is just what it is.  I guess nobody told the transgender community that.

Look, something that you need to accept, if you are going to have a gender identity, is that some people aren’t going to find that identity attractive.  Don’t like it?  Well, tough love – too bad.  Suck it up, buttercup.  So the guy you want doesn’t want you.  That’s life.  It doesn’t make him sexist or transphobic or whatever stupid buzzword you’re going to use today.  It makes him or her a human being.  There was another article I read where a girl lied to a girl she was into about being a guy, all for the express purpose of getting her to sleep with her, and then cried the blues when the lady was rightfully pissed off about the deception.

And this is where accountability comes to play.  Whatever your gender identity, you gotta step up and tell people the truth about stuff.  If a guy is looking to get with a girl, and that girl has dude-parts, then it is on her to tell him that.  Sorry, but it is entirely on you.  If you do not do that, and then choose to get hurt because you get rejected, the fact is that it is your fault.  Not his.  If you are dishonest with your lover, and they are rightfully upset, you have no right to complain.  For real, none at all.

I get it – rejection hurts.  Nobody wants to be rejected.  I am a towering freak of nature, who isn’t especially good to look at.  I get how rejection feels.  But you have to be honest with people.  That is what any relationship is built on.  Though maybe you aren’t looking for a relationship.  Maybe you just want to fuck someone for a night.  Well, same deal.  If you’re not being up-front with the person you go to bed with, and they reject you, you have no one to blame but yourself.  Don’t like that?  Too fucking bad.

How is it that the transgender community has been able to come out in defense of this person?  Do they not realize this?  Or do they think that they are deserving of some special exemption from the rules of attraction?  They don’t.  In fact, one could argue that they have even more obligation.  Because it isn’t on the person they are worth to accept what they have.  It is on them to tell whoever it is.  Personal responsibility in respect to intimacy seems to fly out the window with this bunch, and that just baffles me.  “It isn’t our fault!  It’s those cis-people’s fault for not accepting us!”  It’s not an acceptance issue if he doesn’t like your dick, honey.  It’s him being turned off by that, and the fact that you didn’t tell him that that was what you are packing.  This lady must get a lot of rejection, and clearly they don’t think it’s their fault, since they went to publications like The Mary Sue to complain about it.

Grow up.

Until next time, a quote,

“People like to say love is unconditional, but it’s not, and even if it was unconditional, it’s still never free. There’s always an expectation attached. They always want something in return. Like they want you to be happy or whatever and that makes you automatically responsible for their happiness because they won’t be happy unless you are … I just don’t want that responsibility.”  – Katja Millay

Peace out,



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