Dispelling an Illusion About Porn

There is something that has been bugging me for some time.  Something that I didn’t quite know how to really talk about, until I heard a story recently about someone who I used to be very close to, once upon a time.  It got me to thinking about right and wrong, and how people’s values systems in those regards can fuck up civil conversations.  With that in mind, let me tell you a story.

I knew a girl, a long time ago.  She was probably the ultimate tomboy.  To anyone who was tight with her, we didn’t question why she wore black guy shirts with Nirvana on it, along with baggy jeans that were clearly not made for girls.  It was just how things were.  Nobody was surprised that she would throw down and fight with any guy who made fun of her for being a girl.  She got suspended a few times, and that’s just how it went.  She came to school with a few black eyes from the fights she got into.  The girl was just born tough.  Some people are like that.  The girl would fight until she was hamburger.  No kidding, I’ve known guys who couldn’t take half the beating that she could.  What’s more, any guy who doubted her toughness came to understand that that was a poor decision.  She played football, dodgeball, the works.  Girl was a fighter.  Still is, or so I figure.  It’s been a while since we last talked.

In any case, because she was always viewed as one of the guys, when the teenage years came about, she still was viewed as one of the guys.  As such,  when the guys would end up watching porn, so did she.  What she saw changed some stuff about her.  See, she had never understood why she never felt a crush or anything.  She had no problem with boys, but they never appealed to her.  Seeing porn, she realized why – because she wasn’t into boys.  What she felt longing for was women.

Then there was another story that came to me from a friend I still have, whose little sister is chums with me on social media and whom I have helped deal with her teenage angst and depression.  Given my perspective on the darkness of the mind, she viewed me as the guy to talk to about her depression.  One such conversation was a lot heavier than the rest.  See, like a lot of young people, she spends an inordinate amount of time on Tumblr.  The site that is like the insane residue of the Internet.  While on Tumblr, she came across something.

There is a woman who posts a lot of stuff about sex.  Every so often, she will post some erotic pictures of herself.  My friend’s sis came across this, and it helped her figure out that she’s gay.  The kid was totally distraught.  My friend was able to get out of the hardcore-Christian household, but she’s still in it.  When she figured out that she’s gay, it broke her heart.  She was certain that the family would disown her if they found out, and that she would be forced to live on the street.  She has been talking with this woman on Tumblr, forced to hide behind anonymity, so as not to risk anyone seeing what she says.

When I hear people like Anita Sarkeesian or any of the third-wave, Puritan Feminists go on about how bad porn is, I get really annoyed.  Why?  Because these are two people who had porn help them figure out who they are.  It isn’t just something for guys.  I hear women like Mercedes Carrera talk about how they are just fine with what they do, not some exploited slave, and I can’t help but think – what is wrong with the Puritan Feminists?  It makes me think that they are just mad that there are women out there who are in touch with their sexuality, while they are scared to death of it.

What do you all think?  Let me know in the comments section.

Until next time, a quote,

“I’m just really tired of women who are a bunch of pathetic, whiny narcissists speaking out on behalf of all women everywhere, and thinking that that’s acceptable.”  -Mercedes Carrera, The Drunken Peasants

Peace out,

Maverick

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